Self-care (filling up your own emotional cup) is important for mums because motherhood is both physically and emotionally demanding. Taking care of a child requires a lot of time, energy, and patience. And let’s face it, some days our kids have a lot of demands, requiring a lot of patience.
The saying “you can not pour from an empty cup” means that you cannot give to others if you are not taking care of yourself first. It is a metaphorical way of saying that if you are emotionally empty, you will not be able to effectively give anything of yourself to others.
So …. self-care is REALLY important.
Mums who prioritise their own self-care, are valuing their own physical and mental health, which benefits everyone by being able to handle the daily stresses of motherhood. Less stress means that you can approach parenting with a more positive attitude, and flexibility to see the fun in things, even accidents.
Self-care can take many forms, such as getting enough sleep, eating healthy foods, exercising, practising mindfulness or meditation, seeking therapy or counselling, spending time with friends or loved ones, pursuing hobbies or interests, and setting boundaries to protect personal time and space.
I like to get up before the rest of the family to exercise. This is self-care to me. I exercise with a beautiful bunch of women who laugh, chat and complain about their husbands, family, children, you know, the usual girl chat. It makes the pain of getting out of bed in the dark worth it in winter. Having a group that is counting on you to turn up, also makes it harder to ditch the exercise for an hour’s sleep.
Ultimately, self-care helps me recharge and refresh. It makes me think that I have done something for myself instead of just constantly giving all day long. This supports and nourishes my mind body and soul so that I can be more present, patient, and engaged in everything I do.
Remember, self-care is not selfish, it’s necessary. Taking care of yourself will help you be a better parent and worker. Plus it leads to a happier, healthier life for you.